He is doingnaˆ™t reduce self esteem in himself in which he donaˆ™t look for shame from their based on how they are feel on account of just how this woman is behaving.
Rather, they turns exactly what could be a difficult or unpleasant instant into something they can laugh about along and above all, a product that might make her really feel more easygoing and lighthearted as she talks to your.
That is why, them guard precipitates.
She perceives that itaˆ™s easy for him and her to have a good laugh collectively and feel happy around oneself.